I really wanted to like him.

He was successful, charming, handsome, active, and sweet. 

I kept reminding myself of what a catch he was. 

But the attraction wasn’t growing. 

I didn’t want to call it off right away.

I was hoping something would build. 

And then I realized…

As available as he seemed – he’d plan dates, call me, ask me great questions – he actually wasn’t emotionally present.

As much as I wanted to and tried, I couldn’t connect with him. 

He was so caught up in making sure I was happy and my needs were met, it was never about him. 

And I wanted it to be!

Because if it were even just a little about him, it would show me that he valued himself and was emotionally connected to his desires. 

It’s important for a partner to understand his/her needs and be able to show up for them. 

High-value women build attraction through respect.

When you agree with everything she says…

Try to impress her…

And are always available to her…

Attraction fades.

Having strong boundaries builds a lasting connection.

They not only create polarity that gets her thinking about you non-stop. They are a crucial part of creating a strong foundation for a healthy relationship. 

5 reasons having boundaries makes you more attractive to high-value women

1. It shows you have self-awareness

Self-awareness is one of the most attractive traits to a high-value woman. It shows her you know yourself well enough to be able to identify and regulate your emotions, experience deeper intimacy, and be compassionate and understanding. 

Having boundaries around your time, space, energy, and resources doesn’t make you selfish. It shows her you have the self-awareness to prioritize how you spend them so you don’t burn out in the relationship or in life. 

2. It builds trust and safety 

You need boundaries to attain emotional regulation and mastery. Boundaries require strength and integrity because you have to be able to acknowledge and honor your feelings, not hide them. 

Having boundaries shows you know how to take care of yourself. No matter how much you deny them, your needs are there. They will continue to simmer below the surface until they boil over. Strong boundaries reduce conflict so you can create more closeness and intimacy. 

3. It conveys healthy communication skills

Your boundaries are only as effective as how you communicate them. Setting a boundary takes assertiveness, not aggressiveness. As I mentioned previously, ignoring your boundaries can lead to outbursts and unhealthy communication. 

When you’re able to effectively explain what does and doesn’t feel good to you in a relationship, she feels comfortable getting closer to you.

4. It shows you have integrity

When you do everything to please her and hide your needs and desires, you aren't being honest about who you are or what you want.

Having boundaries shows her your values, how you spend your time, what’s important to you, and how you honor your relationship with yourself. 

5. It shows you’ll respect hers

A high-value woman honors her needs and desires and wants a man who does the same. Dating a woman like this takes the guesswork out of dating. She will hand you the roadmap to her desires in partnership. She is clear and confident about what she wants. 

When she sees you’re comfortable communicating what you desire and how she can show up for you, she does the same. This creates an enjoyable and strong foundation that allows for ease, closeness, and sustainability in the partnership. 

Remember: A high-value woman wants a man who values himself over her approval. 

5 healthy boundaries to have in dating 

1. Time Boundaries

A high-value man lives a fulfilling life. He is committed to his mission and purpose, relationships with friends and family, health, and personal development. He is able to create this lifestyle because he is strategic and intentional about how he spends his time.

A high-value woman will prioritize getting to know you and expect you to do the same for her. But if she notices she’s already a top priority when you’ve just met, she will wonder if other important parts of your life are being neglected.

For example, when you take her for drinks or coffee on a first date you’re setting a boundary around how much time you’re willing to spend with someone you don’t know yet. As the dating process progresses, so does your time investment. 

2. Physical Boundaries

A high-value man doesn’t jump into bed with every beautiful woman. He is intentional about how he shares his space and body. He will show her he finds her desirable by flirting with her and escalating physical touch. He prioritizes the emotional connection over the physical. He knows this is how to build a solid foundation for a lasting relationship. 

When you kiss her politely and confidently at the end of a first or second date and tell her to get home safe you’re setting a boundary. This shows her you’re intentional about who you share intimate parts of your life with. It also makes her feel safe and increases her desire to get closer to you. 

3. Financial Boundaries

A high-value woman will notice your relationship with money. How you spend it shows how you value it. Do you hold tightly onto it? Do you light it on fire? Do you spend it strategically? Who you spend it on is also important to her. 

When you start spending a lot on her right away, it may feel impressive to her initially. But she will subconsciously wonder how many other women you also spend this much money on. She won’t feel special when you take her to a beautiful restaurant, buy her gifts, or send her flowers. She doesn’t want to feel like another woman on your conveyer belt. She wants to know you chose her intentionally.

4. Digital Boundaries

The way you interact with her on technology is an important part of modern dating. High-value men put weight on their online presence and how they prioritize their time online. They also have strong boundaries around how they share digital space with a woman. 

Dating apps and social media have made the modern dating world more complex. There are multiple layers to becoming an official couple. Your boundaries around when you share your social media with her, when you follow her, how often you look at her profile, when you decide to post pictures together, when you decide to get off the apps or delete them, etc. are all important boundaries to consider and communicate with her. 

5. Emotional Boundaries

High-value men are open and authentic. They are able to connect with women on a deeper level because they are comfortable with intimacy. And they feel this way because they have strong boundaries around who they let into their inner circle. 

They aren’t guarded or aloof. Rather, they have strong boundaries around what they share and who they share it with. 

They value their emotional well-being and peace of mind over anything else. They know their mindset is crucial to their success in all areas of life so they have clarity about what they need to perform at optimal levels.  

I see a lot of men feel overwhelmed by women and dating because they don’t have strong emotional boundaries. They spend hours overthinking why she isn’t texting them or what to say next. Your time is way too valuable to be spent second-guessing in dating. 

You can only attract your dream woman when you get out of this cycle.

And if you’re like most of my clients, you understand the importance of boundaries. 

But lack clarity on how to define, communicate, and uphold them in ways that build trust, connection, and attraction throughout the entire dating process. 

This can be especially true when you are interested in a woman. 

You want her to like you and think you’re a strong, regulated, and fun partner. 

So your boundaries disappear. 

You begin to overthink the process and end up overinvesting. 

And when you notice yourself wanting more from her, you shove it down. 

Even worse, when you notice her pulling away, you withhold the attention and affection you gave before. 

Which creates more distrust and disconnect. 

You keep hearing, “You’re a great guy, but…” because you have been subconsciously programmed to do the opposite of what women really desire. 

The way you’re showing up is well-intentioned. I know you want her to feel special.

But you’re not being your authentic self. You’re trying to be what you think she wants you to be. 

And this doesn’t create safety, connection, or attraction. 

To create a solid foundation for a successful, healthy relationship with a high-value woman, you need to:

• Understand and heal your own attachment patterns so you can attract an emotionally available woman ready for a relationship 

• Define strong internal and external boundaries and learn how to effectively communicate them to create closeness 

• Integrate into your masculine and feminine energies to build lasting polarity

• Have a solid dating roadmap to structure your qualifying process

• Rewire your limiting beliefs and align yourself energetically with what you desire

If you’re ready to stop reliving history, I have two ways to help you finally attract your dream woman for a lasting relationship: 

Join my course, Masculine in Love™, to learn how to build unapologetic confidence in dating, create a genuine connection, and attract your dream woman. 

This work has already helped hundreds of men transform their dating lives. 

Now it’s your turn. 

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