When Mike and I got engaged, I shared a story with you about our first date. 

I talked about the anticipation I felt as I ran to the coffee shop to meet him. 

There was a wave of excitement that traveled through every one of my cells thinking about being around him. 

And, when I met him, the excitement turned into joy (and nerves, to be honest).

It was like I had always known him and, at the same time, it felt fresh and new. 

We had already started getting to know each other virtually. It was exciting and relieving to see that the same man I had been talking to was sitting in front of me.

I saw the same confidence, authenticity, humor, and strength I experienced on FaceTime and text in person.

I know you want to feel that same excitement from a woman. You want to know she’s as into you as you are into her. That she’s someone you can be yourself with. 

When you’ve been going on dates where you either…

• Feel excited but realize she’s not as into you as you are into her

• Feel like the woman is more excited than you and feel turned off

Dating is going to feel frustrating. 

You put so much effort into attracting her and setting up the date. There’s nothing more disheartening than feeling like your work isn’t paying off. 

You’re driven, introspective, intelligent, and take care of yourself. You’re a catch!

But you’re disconnecting from your authentic confidence when you’re into a woman. 

Mike was very into me. I knew it, and it was one of the things that drew me to him so strongly.

But his behavior never changed because of it. (He also didn’t flinch when he realized I was a dating coach for men, which showed unbelievable confidence.)

He wasn’t born this way. 

He had been through heartbreak and rejection. He had doubted his ability to be loved. 

But he didn’t let his past get in the way of attracting his dream woman. 

To this day, he leads our relationship to places I never knew possible. Which are stories for another day. 

Today, I want to help you inspire the same level of excitement in your dream woman from the moment you meet. 

Even better, I’m going to help you do this in a way that lays the foundation for a healthy relationship.

Games and tactics can create anticipation with an insecure woman because they create instability. But getting into an unstable relationship is the last thing you want. 

These are four ways to inspire excitement and anticipation before and during your first date with a secure, high-value woman.

4 Ways to Inspire Excitement in Your Dream Woman Before & During Your First Date

1. Communicate with her 

If you’ve bought into the advice to only text a woman for logistical reasons until your first date, you’ve likely experienced:

• Women canceling on you last minute and not rescheduling

• First dates that feel like interviews and lack polarity

• Women feeling lukewarm and unavailable on first dates 

• First dates that seem to go well but never lead to a second 

Whether you don’t like texting, worry about saying the wrong thing, or are busy, here’s the truth. 

This advice is convenient to you. You get to avoid your fears or burdens while telling yourself it’s part of your strategy. 

Avoidance never builds confidence. It also doesn’t build a connection with her. 

If you want a core feminine energy woman, one who’s caring, open, sweet, playful, and healthy, you need to lead her emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically.

This doesn’t mean she expects perfection or won’t contribute. She will also be there to reciprocate interest and build the connection. She just does this in different ways from you. Which is what gets YOU thinking about her nonstop. 

When you are only leading with logistics, she doesn’t feel emotionally connected. 

Let me be clear about one thing:

Texting her all day every day, is another extreme to avoid. 

We want to find the balance. 

To build attraction, it’s important you show genuine interest in getting to know her while also continuing to prioritize the other important parts of your life. 

2. Get clear on what “being yourself” looks like in dating 

You’ve given up the games and tactics but find yourself feeling confused about how to show up in dating as yourself. 

This confusion is disconnecting you from your dream woman. She senses it and then doesn’t feel comfortable opening up to you. This is why women you meet feel guarded or shut down. 

But what does being yourself even mean? What does it look like?

This is the fun part. YOU get to decide what being yourself means. 

And here’s the kicker. When you have subconscious dating blocks, being yourself is nearly impossible to do with a woman you’re into. 

She is going to activate subconscious limiting beliefs and fears lurking below the surface. This is why you keep…

• Overinvesting and coming on too strong

• Acting passive, relying on her affirmation, and pulling away at any sign of rejection

• Overthinking everything you say and do 

All of which kill polarity and trust.

The first step to dating authentically is to pinpoint where you’re disconnected from yourself. 

Knowing yourself is not just about defining what hobbies you like or goals you have. It’s understanding your beliefs, the way you think, and why. 

The trouble happens when you decide your beliefs are universal truths without question. 

Remember, just because you think it doesn’t make it true. 

It’s important to determine which thoughts are empowering you in your dating life and which are holding you back. 

When you buy into your limiting beliefs, you feel insecure, anxious, and disconnected. 

When you acknowledge them and choose empowering thoughts, you feel confident, present, and grounded. 

You can start this process by identifying your beliefs about dating, women, relationships, and yourself – both positive and negative.

Then, look at the list and determine which thoughts feel empowering and help you attract your dream woman and which thoughts feel disempowering and hinder you from attracting her.

3. Stop making assumptions

High-value women want to feel seen and understood. 

One of the quickest ways to make her feel the opposite is to assume who she is, what she likes, and take zero interest in getting to know her.

Taking an interest in getting to know her is also known as “qualifying her.”

Qualifying her does three things:

1. It conveys self-awareness, intention, and confidence. It shows her that you know who you are and what you want and believe you can have it. In other words, you have standards. 

2. It inspires her to open up. When you ask her thoughtful questions about parts of her life she’s excited about, she feels the anticipation around these events and equates these feelings with communicating with you.  

3. It tells you more about her. The more you know about her, the easier it will be to relate and connect with her.

   Note: It’s important to not take this too far and start people-pleasing. Rather, this is just an opportunity for you to show her you heard what she said while also staying true to what you believe and want (i.e. your boundaries). She will feel closer to you simply by being heard by you.

4. Heal your past 

For the three weeks leading up to our first date, my future husband was unapologetically confident, open, and vulnerable.

He sent me video messages, texts, and FaceTimed with me nearly every day. We shared stories about our past and talked about our dreams for the future. 

He even sent me a Venmo to treat myself to coffee when I was having a rough morning. 

When he said, “I’m going to fly out there next Tuesday and take you to dinner,” I was shocked. 

I knew this wasn’t his usual song and dance. He wasn’t the type of guy to just fly out to meet any woman. He wanted to meet me, specifically. 

I could tell this made him feel vulnerable. But he stayed confident in his pursuit. This is one of the many qualities I fell in love with. 

There is NO way he would’ve taken this chance if he hadn’t done the work to heal from his past disappointments. 

Like me, love hadn’t always been easy for him. 

It was his courage and strength to learn about all parts of himself, heal his masculine energy, get clear on what he wanted, surround himself with an amazing community, and develop his belief in himself that led him to me. 

As a woman who had taken ownership for my own growth, who had healed my feminine energy, and developed my belief in love, I saw this in him. 

Knowing how dedicated he was to himself, his growth, and getting to know me is why I sprinted to that cafe and felt so excited to meet him.

It’s also what makes me so excited to marry him!

To say I'm grateful he didn’t give up on love is an understatement.

I know your dream woman is going to feel the same. 

I have made it my mission to help driven, amazing men like you get everything you desire in love.

When you learn how to genuinely connect with women, it all changes. 

The women you attract get better and more beautiful.

The dates you go on become more fun. 

The relationships you create get more powerful.

The money you make feels so much more meaningful.

And attracting your dream woman is so much easier. 

You deserve a woman who’s self-aware, sincere, and fun.

I have two VIP spots opening up for men who want to learn how to shed their insecurities in dating and attract their dream woman. 

If that’s you, now is the time to get started. Women are feeling more open and ready for love than ever. 

High-value women got to know themselves and find clarity about what they want in a partner in 2023. 

And now, they’re ready to find a guy to share all of the amazing memories of 2024 with. Their mind is on relationships NOW more than any other time of year.

If this is something you also want, let’s go get her!

Apply now to see if we’re a good fit for your transformation.

Until next time!