When you’re a busy, successful guy, you don’t have the time or energy to date women who aren’t right for you.

And if you’ve been hurt in the past, the last thing you want is to pursue a woman you think is right for you, only to end up heartbroken again. 

But trying to guess if a woman is the one in the first couple of dates is hindering your ability to build a connection with your dream woman.

When you try to predict the future with a woman too soon, you end up…

• Falling for the story you have about her, rushing the dating process, and killing polarity 

• Making excuses for her behavior because you're attracted to her and end up chasing an unavailable woman

• Hyper focusing on her "flaws" and breaking it off with an amazing woman who could be a great partner

And you just keep going back to YouTube videos or Reels overthinking the process and trying to figure out how to determine if she could be your dream woman or worst nightmare. 

But the same issues keep coming up.

It feels like every woman has “red flags” and you’re not sure when to walk away and when to see it through.

There are plenty of amazing, high-value women out there.

But until you know how to accurately spot green and red flags, you are going to stay in a cycle of short-lived dating experiences. 

These are five green flags most men overlook in women. 

5 Green Flags Most Men Overlook in Women

1. She doesn’t bend her schedule to yours

A big green flag is when a woman has a life of her own. And when a woman prioritizes what’s important to her while also making time to get to know you, she’s a keeper. 

It may feel nice at first when a woman bends her schedule for you. But this is a sign she may have people-pleasing tendencies. If they are unregulated, before you know it, she feels resentful in the relationship.

She’s not bending her schedule or needs out of the goodness of her heart. This is how she’s been taught to achieve love. If she lacks awareness around these patterns, she can end up projecting her frustration with her choice not to prioritize herself onto you.

Our society teaches women to put their needs last. So if you start dating a woman who can communicate healthy boundaries, she has likely done work on her own development. Being able to say “no” is a sign of high self-awareness and self-worth. 

However, here’s the tricky part, when women have unresolved pain from past experiences with men, they can overcompensate for previous people-pleasing tendencies. They end up guarded and stuck in their masculine energy, which makes it hard to connect with them. 

If a woman honors both of your schedules and needs, green flag. 

If a woman always needs you to be on her schedule, is overly protective of her time, and doesn’t respect either of your priorities, red flag. 

2. Her text replies vary in timing

If you have a subconscious fear of abandonment or rejection, it can feel very uncomfortable when a woman is texting you nonstop and then takes hours to get back to you. And if you read into what her text timing means or try to alter your communication to fit hers, you’ll get stuck in your head. 

When your focus goes entirely to how she feels about you and you forget to qualify her, your energy shifts. And when your energy shifts, so does the way you communicate.

You may not even realize it because this happens at the subconscious level. You may start to search for affirmation – either by oversharing and coming on too strong or withholding and acting aloof. Both of which hinder polarity and connection. 

When a woman loves her life outside of dating, she may not be glued to her phone. She may be excited to see your text but want to wait until she can give you a better response to reply. This shows healthy self-esteem and self-care, both of which positively impact the relationship in the ways she communicates and relates to you. 

However, inconsistent communication becomes a red flag when a woman always gives you short answers, never asks you any questions about yourself, and/or avoids date requests. 

Remember: An emotionally available woman does not play hard to get. 

3. She actively participates in moving the conversation forward

If you have a subconscious desire to achieve love, you are susceptible to chasing after unavailable women. You get a thrill from the chase and can mistake unavailability for high value. 

This means you may also subconsciously talk yourself out of a beautiful woman genuinely wanting to connect with you because she is available. This is your subconscious’ way of keeping you safe. It wants to go where it feels familiar. 

If relationships that start intense and end quickly feel familiar, you will subconsciously seek out this dynamic, even if it’s hurting you. You’ll feel drawn to unavailable women without even realizing it.

It sounds counterintuitive when you consciously desire partnership. But when your subconscious fears are at odds with your conscious desires, your subconscious always wins.  This is why you can read all the books, follow all the coaches, get in the best shape, have lots of money, meditate, and still not get the woman. 
 
And here’s the crazy part, two women may both be just as attractive, driven, and charismatic as each other, but you will subconsciously choose the woman who has no intention of choosing you and pull away from the woman who is. 

This is why you keep finding yourself in a disheartening cycle of short-lived dating experiences. It’s also why my coaching focuses on getting to the subconscious layer so you can attract an amazing woman who’s everything you want on paper who you also feel mind-blowing attraction to.

4. She speaks up if something upsets or bothers her

As a man, all you want to do is see the woman you adore happy. And when a woman tells you something upset or bothered her, it can make you question if you can live up to her expectations. This can be especially true if you’ve been with a woman in the past who blamed you for her discontent. 

A woman who can effectively communicate her needs and desires is the easiest type of woman to make happy. She takes ownership of her well-being and doesn’t rely on you to give it to her. There’s no mind reading necessary.  

However, if you’ve been with women in the past who blamed you for their unhappiness, you may get defensive when she shares how she’s feeling. In response, you may either overcompensate by trying to please her or shut down and cut the relationship off prematurely out of fear of rejection. 

This is why it’s important to heal from your past experiences so you can see a woman for who she truly is, not as a reflection of your ex. (Also why I have a whole Bonus lesson in my course, Masculine in Love™, that teaches you how to move on from your ex and stop projecting onto new women.)

This isn’t to be confused with a woman who criticizes or judges you. That is a big red flag. When you’re with a woman who knows how to communicate her needs in a healthy way, it feels empowering. You feel inspired to become an even better version of yourself in partnership, and your connection grows stronger. 

5. Her adoration of you increases as she gets to know you

Qualifying a woman takes time. She can tell you all the right things but what’s more important is how she embodies her values. 

Remember: For each phase of dating, you want to ask yourself – What do I need to know about her, experience with her, and feel for her to want to move the relationship forward?

It can feel tempting to put everything on the table in the first few dates to try and speed up the process. This rarely works. 

When you overshare in the first few dates, you still don’t know each other, you just know what you’ve told each other. 

This subconscious self-sabotage pattern will…

• Hinder trust and safety because she doesn’t feel like you’re emotionally aware enough to pace the dating process

• Keep you in a cycle of falling for the story you have about a woman instead of who she shows you she is 

• Put you at risk of being with women who are manipulative and controlling 

• Emit needy energy of needing her affirmation and approval and block attraction 

• Trigger one or both of your nervous systems so you become dysregulated and can’t build a solid foundation for the relationship 

It may seem like she’s all in at first and accepting you, but if she’s emotionally unavailable, eventually she will start to pull away. Without the right communication tools or willingness to work through things, the relationship will end. 

When a woman shows more and more interest over time as you gradually open up to her, you can trust the connection and know she’s falling for you, not the story she has about you.

Having a list of red and green flags is helpful in dating. 

But like most practical dating tips, they’re only as effective as your subconscious will allow. 

If you tend to ignore red flags, identifying and being able to walk away from them takes more than sheer will. 

The same goes if you tend to create red flags that don't really exist and end relationships prematurely. 

When your subconscious is programmed to look for danger rather than safety, it will continue to find it in woman after woman. 

If you have a subconscious fear of abandonment or rejection, the danger you’re trying to avoid can lead you into the arms of the wrong woman. You’ll convince yourself she’ll change (or that you will) and minimize her red flags. 

If you have a subconscious fear of intimacy, the danger you’re trying to avoid can deter you from an amazing woman who has so much love and care to give. You’ll convince yourself you’re incompatible, hyperfocus on little flaws, and walk away. 

To be able to see a woman for who she is, not who you want or fear her to be, you have to first identify the subconscious blocks holding you back from genuinely connecting with her. 

This is why my course, Masculine in Love™, shows you how to attract your dream woman from the inside out. 

Knowing how to act and talk to women is only a piece of the puzzle.

And it’s a pointless piece if you always feel like you’re trying to mold yourself to a woman’s standards.

Trying to be someone you’re not is the quickest way to kill polarity and trust and lose your shot. 

I want to teach you how to date as yourself because it’s the only way to build a lasting and fulfilling connection.

When you join Masculine in Love™, you will learn how to…

• Rewire your subconscious programming so you can become authentically confident

• Release the limiting beliefs keeping you from attracting the type of woman you really want

• Learn how to qualify women you’re attracted to for long-term compatibility

• Communicative effectively to gain her respect and get her thinking about you nonstop

• Integrate into your masculine energy and lead the dating process to build trust and polarity

• Learn how to deepen your connection with a woman so you never have to question her devotion or loyalty to you again

It’s your turn to have it all, including the dream woman.

Until next time!