YOUR GUIDE TO AUTHENTIC DATING

Practical tips to go from

confused to confident

in your love life

Get one step closer to your dream woman

YOUR GUIDE TO AUTHENTIC DATING

Practical tips to go from

confused to confident

in your love life

Get one step closer to your dream woman

Previous Issues of The Newsletters

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5 Dating Rules You Need to Break to Attract Your Dream Woman

January 23, 20247 min read

Your logic and reason are why you’ve accomplished so much financially and professionally.

You’ve figured out formulas and structures to get what you want when you want it.

But what’s worked in your career doesn’t always work in love. 

What builds attraction with a woman is different than what builds a connection. 

And you need both. 

Attraction draws her in and connection creates a lasting bond. 

But a set of rules or operations won’t create lasting attraction or connection with your dream woman. 

This is why you end up chasing unavailable women or pushing away high-value women ready for a relationship. 

Creating a lasting bond with an emotionally available woman who’s secure, open, fun, feminine, beautiful, and driven takes a different mindset. 

She won’t fall for petty games. And inconsistency drives her away.

It feels like there’s no good women out there because you’re using tactics that attract the unavailable ones. 

It’s time to release the limiting beliefs and false notions you have about what women want. 

I’m dishing out 5 dating rules you need to break to attract your dream woman. 


5 Dating Rules You Need to Break to Attract Your Dream Woman

Rule #1: Never show your emotions to a woman

A high-value woman doesn’t want a man who lacks emotions. She wants a man who is in control of his emotions. This doesn’t mean you can never show how you’re feeling. 

A lot of men confuse showing emotion, or being vulnerable, with oversharing, complaining, and overinvesting. 

If you are always complaining about your life or the past, she’s going to question your level of self-awareness. A man with high self-awareness takes ownership for his healing. He respects his emotional process and lets himself feel whatever he’s going through. But he doesn’t use his date as a therapist or coach.

Overinvesting happens when you fall for the story you have about a woman. Falling in love with who you think she could be is infatuation. And sharing your infatuation with her doesn’t feel safe. 

Shutting down and acting aloof also isn’t the answer. An emotionally available woman will feel unfulfilled with a surface-level connection. 

Letting her in on your excitement for the future and what you’ve learned from your past creates an emotional bond. When she sees you have deep introspection and perspective, she feels safe opening up to you. 

Rule #2: Get her to chase you 

There’s nothing that kills polarity faster than getting chased by a woman. I know it sounds tempting in theory because you think it’ll be less work with more reciprocity. 

But here’s the problem. When a woman starts chasing you, you won’t have the chance to step into your masculine energy and lead. You become passive and she becomes the pursuer. 

Eventually she either gets resentful that you aren’t taking the lead or you lose interest because there’s no room to pursue. I see a lot of men retract from the dating process when a woman starts chasing because they don’t feel like they’re in the driver’s seat of the relationship. They fear a life of her calling all the shots. 

When you step into your masculine energy, you attract an emotionally available woman who respects you and reciprocates your pursuit. She’ll empower you to lead through her radiance and generosity. She’ll prioritize time with you and communicate openly so you’ll feel like the driver while also never questioning her interest . 

Rule #3: Never bend on plans when she asks 

If you’re worried she’s testing you when she changes the time or spot for your date, you have a lot to learn about women. 

A woman wants to know you have strong boundaries. But her asking to alter plans is not where you have to stand your ground. 

If you have a tendency to be a people pleaser, it's important you learn to set and uphold strong boundaries. But boundaries are different from walls. When you're always guarded, you’ll never be able to emotionally connect with your dream woman. 

Get clear on the boundaries that make you feel good in dating and relationship. These are the ones you should never compromise on. 

If you're unclear on the difference between boundaries and walls, make sure you grab my latest course, Masculine in Love.

I'll teach you how to identify and attract the type of woman you want. I'll also share with you how to create solid boundaries and effective communication with your dream woman. 

Rule #4: Only text her for logistical reasons between dates 

For most men, connection only builds in person. But for most women, connection grows in person AND remotely. When you only text or call her for logistics, she assumes you’re either noncommittal, not that interested, uncommunicative, or boring. Yikes. 

Phone-time is an important part of the modern dating process. If you get nervous texting or calling a woman, I get it. But avoiding it is not the answer. 

Instead, the first step is to understand your true fears and apprehensions to virtual communication. Most men who avoid texting have a subconscious fear of rejection or intimacy. They fear if she sees too much of them, she’ll leave. Or if they let her in too much, she’ll get ahead of herself and they’ll get stuck in a relationship they didn’t choose. 

These blocks aren’t something you just push away. They require deeper and more meaningful work to transcend. But when you do, connecting with your dream woman becomes the most natural and fulfilling thing you’ll ever experience. 

Just ask my clients…

Emily Freeman Coaching TestimonialsEmily Freeman Coaching Testimonials

Rule #5: Let your dream relationship “just happen”

If you were mentoring a young man in business, would you tell him to “just let it happen”? A high-value woman wants a man who’s intentional – who knows what he wants and confidently goes after it. 

Letting things come to you takes you out of your masculine energy by nature. Masculine energy is characterized by giving, doing, leading, and decision-making. Feminine energy is characterized by receiving and flow. 

To create polarity and trust with a core feminine energy woman who’s nurturing and receptive, you have to be in your masculine energy in the dating process. She needs to feel like you have direction to feel comfortable following your lead. 


Building natural polarity is what inspires a woman to want to get closer to you. 

When she wants to get closer to you, she opens up.

This is your moment to start building connection. 

But this is when most men shut down. 

They’ve read all the dating books on how to lead and create attraction. 

But they have no idea how to hold space for a woman while staying in their masculine energy. 

Instead they shut down or take it as an invitation to overinvest, both of which lead her to question the connection you started creating. 

Knowing how to connect with a woman requires connecting with yourself. 

I know it sounds abstract, but hear me out. 

High-value women are craving self-aware men who know how to emotionally connect. 

This isn’t something to be glossed over. And it’s not something you can cover up with games and tactics. 

This is why my coaching focuses on helping you create confidence from the inside out. We focus on balancing your masculine and feminine energies so you can lead the dating process while also creating the deep connection you’ve always wanted. 

I don’t see you in a partnership that makes you feel uneasy, bored, or restless. That has you walking on eggshells.

I envision a partnership that lifts you up and empowers you to live your life to the fullest, take risks, and love harder. 

I’m in if you are. 

I have one VIP Private Coaching spot available.

This is an exclusive opportunity to work with me one-on-one to uncover your dating blindspots, build unwavering confidence, integrate into your masculine energy, and get everything you want in love.

With weekly calls and unlimited WhatsApp texting to support you every step of the way, we’ll breakthrough your limitations in dating so you can attract your dream woman for a lasting partnership.

Apply now to become one of the select few who get to work with me privately.

Apply for VIP

Until next time!

Emily Freeman Coaching Signature

It’s my mission to help men realize their true potential in dating & relationships. I know what it’s like to desire partnership so badly but question if you’ll ever get it. It doesn’t have to be this hard. I’m so grateful I’m the one who gets to show you how fun and fulfilling love can be.

Emily Freeman

It’s my mission to help men realize their true potential in dating & relationships. I know what it’s like to desire partnership so badly but question if you’ll ever get it. It doesn’t have to be this hard. I’m so grateful I’m the one who gets to show you how fun and fulfilling love can be.

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5 Dating Rules You Need to Break to Attract Your Dream Woman

January 23, 20247 min read

Your logic and reason are why you’ve accomplished so much financially and professionally.

You’ve figured out formulas and structures to get what you want when you want it.

But what’s worked in your career doesn’t always work in love. 

What builds attraction with a woman is different than what builds a connection. 

And you need both. 

Attraction draws her in and connection creates a lasting bond. 

But a set of rules or operations won’t create lasting attraction or connection with your dream woman. 

This is why you end up chasing unavailable women or pushing away high-value women ready for a relationship. 

Creating a lasting bond with an emotionally available woman who’s secure, open, fun, feminine, beautiful, and driven takes a different mindset. 

She won’t fall for petty games. And inconsistency drives her away.

It feels like there’s no good women out there because you’re using tactics that attract the unavailable ones. 

It’s time to release the limiting beliefs and false notions you have about what women want. 

I’m dishing out 5 dating rules you need to break to attract your dream woman. 


5 Dating Rules You Need to Break to Attract Your Dream Woman

Rule #1: Never show your emotions to a woman

A high-value woman doesn’t want a man who lacks emotions. She wants a man who is in control of his emotions. This doesn’t mean you can never show how you’re feeling. 

A lot of men confuse showing emotion, or being vulnerable, with oversharing, complaining, and overinvesting. 

If you are always complaining about your life or the past, she’s going to question your level of self-awareness. A man with high self-awareness takes ownership for his healing. He respects his emotional process and lets himself feel whatever he’s going through. But he doesn’t use his date as a therapist or coach.

Overinvesting happens when you fall for the story you have about a woman. Falling in love with who you think she could be is infatuation. And sharing your infatuation with her doesn’t feel safe. 

Shutting down and acting aloof also isn’t the answer. An emotionally available woman will feel unfulfilled with a surface-level connection. 

Letting her in on your excitement for the future and what you’ve learned from your past creates an emotional bond. When she sees you have deep introspection and perspective, she feels safe opening up to you. 

Rule #2: Get her to chase you 

There’s nothing that kills polarity faster than getting chased by a woman. I know it sounds tempting in theory because you think it’ll be less work with more reciprocity. 

But here’s the problem. When a woman starts chasing you, you won’t have the chance to step into your masculine energy and lead. You become passive and she becomes the pursuer. 

Eventually she either gets resentful that you aren’t taking the lead or you lose interest because there’s no room to pursue. I see a lot of men retract from the dating process when a woman starts chasing because they don’t feel like they’re in the driver’s seat of the relationship. They fear a life of her calling all the shots. 

When you step into your masculine energy, you attract an emotionally available woman who respects you and reciprocates your pursuit. She’ll empower you to lead through her radiance and generosity. She’ll prioritize time with you and communicate openly so you’ll feel like the driver while also never questioning her interest . 

Rule #3: Never bend on plans when she asks 

If you’re worried she’s testing you when she changes the time or spot for your date, you have a lot to learn about women. 

A woman wants to know you have strong boundaries. But her asking to alter plans is not where you have to stand your ground. 

If you have a tendency to be a people pleaser, it's important you learn to set and uphold strong boundaries. But boundaries are different from walls. When you're always guarded, you’ll never be able to emotionally connect with your dream woman. 

Get clear on the boundaries that make you feel good in dating and relationship. These are the ones you should never compromise on. 

If you're unclear on the difference between boundaries and walls, make sure you grab my latest course, Masculine in Love.

I'll teach you how to identify and attract the type of woman you want. I'll also share with you how to create solid boundaries and effective communication with your dream woman. 

Rule #4: Only text her for logistical reasons between dates 

For most men, connection only builds in person. But for most women, connection grows in person AND remotely. When you only text or call her for logistics, she assumes you’re either noncommittal, not that interested, uncommunicative, or boring. Yikes. 

Phone-time is an important part of the modern dating process. If you get nervous texting or calling a woman, I get it. But avoiding it is not the answer. 

Instead, the first step is to understand your true fears and apprehensions to virtual communication. Most men who avoid texting have a subconscious fear of rejection or intimacy. They fear if she sees too much of them, she’ll leave. Or if they let her in too much, she’ll get ahead of herself and they’ll get stuck in a relationship they didn’t choose. 

These blocks aren’t something you just push away. They require deeper and more meaningful work to transcend. But when you do, connecting with your dream woman becomes the most natural and fulfilling thing you’ll ever experience. 

Just ask my clients…

Emily Freeman Coaching TestimonialsEmily Freeman Coaching Testimonials

Rule #5: Let your dream relationship “just happen”

If you were mentoring a young man in business, would you tell him to “just let it happen”? A high-value woman wants a man who’s intentional – who knows what he wants and confidently goes after it. 

Letting things come to you takes you out of your masculine energy by nature. Masculine energy is characterized by giving, doing, leading, and decision-making. Feminine energy is characterized by receiving and flow. 

To create polarity and trust with a core feminine energy woman who’s nurturing and receptive, you have to be in your masculine energy in the dating process. She needs to feel like you have direction to feel comfortable following your lead. 


Building natural polarity is what inspires a woman to want to get closer to you. 

When she wants to get closer to you, she opens up.

This is your moment to start building connection. 

But this is when most men shut down. 

They’ve read all the dating books on how to lead and create attraction. 

But they have no idea how to hold space for a woman while staying in their masculine energy. 

Instead they shut down or take it as an invitation to overinvest, both of which lead her to question the connection you started creating. 

Knowing how to connect with a woman requires connecting with yourself. 

I know it sounds abstract, but hear me out. 

High-value women are craving self-aware men who know how to emotionally connect. 

This isn’t something to be glossed over. And it’s not something you can cover up with games and tactics. 

This is why my coaching focuses on helping you create confidence from the inside out. We focus on balancing your masculine and feminine energies so you can lead the dating process while also creating the deep connection you’ve always wanted. 

I don’t see you in a partnership that makes you feel uneasy, bored, or restless. That has you walking on eggshells.

I envision a partnership that lifts you up and empowers you to live your life to the fullest, take risks, and love harder. 

I’m in if you are. 

I have one VIP Private Coaching spot available.

This is an exclusive opportunity to work with me one-on-one to uncover your dating blindspots, build unwavering confidence, integrate into your masculine energy, and get everything you want in love.

With weekly calls and unlimited WhatsApp texting to support you every step of the way, we’ll breakthrough your limitations in dating so you can attract your dream woman for a lasting partnership.

Apply now to become one of the select few who get to work with me privately.

Apply for VIP

Until next time!

Emily Freeman Coaching Signature

It’s my mission to help men realize their true potential in dating & relationships. I know what it’s like to desire partnership so badly but question if you’ll ever get it. It doesn’t have to be this hard. I’m so grateful I’m the one who gets to show you how fun and fulfilling love can be.

Emily Freeman

It’s my mission to help men realize their true potential in dating & relationships. I know what it’s like to desire partnership so badly but question if you’ll ever get it. It doesn’t have to be this hard. I’m so grateful I’m the one who gets to show you how fun and fulfilling love can be.

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