He talked the whole time on our first date…

About himself. 

I really wanted to like him.

He was cute, intentional, successful, and very interested in me. 

I even went on second and third dates with him. 

I knew he meant well…

But it was like he couldn’t get out of his head. 

I could tell he was nervous...

But that wasn't the issue.

I found his nerves endearing. 

It was near impossible to feel connected to him when I didn’t feel seen or heard. 

When you overthink the dating process…

And second-guess what to say and do…

It’s because you’re caught up in impressing her…

Avoiding rejection…

And not getting what you want. 

You’re focused on what you don’t want to happen…

Instead of what you do. 

She doesn’t expect perfection…

She wants connection. 

8 Things a High-Value Woman Notices on a First Date

A high-value woman is not interested in testing you. 

A date with her won’t feel like an interview or pop quiz. 

She’s on a date to get to know you. 

She’s looking to see if you’re also clear about what you want and have the confidence to go after it. 

She’ll ask you thoughtful questions, answer yours genuinely, and be focused on having fun with you. 

Naturally, she’s going to want to see if you’re a good fit for her. 

If you’re in alignment with her values, desires, and vision. 

These are eight things a high-value woman notices on a first date. 

1. How she feels around you

Your resume, appearance, and lifestyle may get you on a date with a high-value woman.

But she stays for the way you make her feel.

When she sees you are unapologetic about who you are, confident initiating, aware of your surroundings, and interested in getting to know her, she feels safe opening up to you.

Your greeting is your first impression. Give her a big, friendly smile when you see her. If she seems open to it, confidently give her a brief hug. Don’t rush out of it, but also don’t hug her for more than a couple of seconds. Do NOT shake her hand. 

2. How you order

I know this sounds small, but women notice how you make decisions.

It doesn’t matter what you order. She’s not judging your tastebuds. 

When you order with confidence, it shows her you trust your judgment and know what will make you happy.

She becomes hopeful this is how you also make decisions in other more important areas of your life.

3. The questions you ask

When you ask thoughtful questions, it shows you’re intentional. 

When you ask her questions that inspire her to open up, share her vision, and her favorite memories, she feels inspired.

One of my favorite intentional questions that also invites her to open up is, “What inspired you to _______?” 

This is an open-ended question that will give you more insight into what drives her, what she’s passionate about, and a bit about her backstory. 

She’ll likely relive some great memories, be reminded of her purpose, and feel motivated and happy. She will equate these uplifting emotions to being around you.

4. How you touch her

A man’s touch can either light a woman on fire or make her cold as ice. It’s important to read her body language and signs of interest before escalating physical touch. 

When you do escalate, make sure you’re touching her with a firm but gentle grip. 

For example, if you hold her hand, make sure you’re really holding it without hurting her. She wants to feel your strength and confidence. 

5. How you answer her questions

She wants to get to know you. 

If you seem aloof and guarded, the conversation won’t go anywhere. She gets the impression you're either hiding something or not self-aware.

If you share too much too soon, she assumes you lack boundaries. She'll feel more like your therapist or coach instead of your date. 

6. How you treat those around you

She wants to feel special, but not like she’s getting special treatment. 

If you’re nice and polite to her, but treat others differently, she assumes you aren’t genuine. That you’re treating her a certain way out of gainful intent. 

When you go all in too soon, it feels like you want something from her. That you already have expectations of where things are going and who she's supposed to be. She doesn’t feel like you know her well enough to be that invested. 

7. How you end the date

You guys know I don’t teach games or tactics because they don’t get you the type of woman you want. 

But when it comes to ending a date, I have one steadfast rule…

Do NOT try and plan the second date on the first. 

It ruins the moment. There’s nothing romantic about pulling out your calendars and trying to find a time to meet again.

Let her basque in the first date and relive the memories until you ask her out again. 

8. How you follow up

A high-value woman who’s comfortable in her feminine energy will likely wait for you to initiate communication after a date. 

She wants to know you’re intentional and interested in getting to know her. 

Leading the dating process shows you: 

• Have clarity about who you are and what you want

• Have the confidence to go after it

• Are decisive and action-oriented

• Don’t need her affirmation

• Are genuinely interested in getting to know her

• Have a vision and a plan to create it

• Can be a leader

And this makes her feel safe enough to relax, become playful and flirtatious, and want to get closer to you. 

Remember: She wants to find love as much as you do. Give her the chance to get to know you. The real you who is confident in who he is and unapologetic about it. 

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