Create the relationship you actually want — without repeating the pattern that keeps getting in the way.
Identify the pattern blocking true connection, catch it in real time, and learn how to build the relationship you actually want.
A 4-hour live coaching workshop
Saturday, September 19 · 10AM-2PM PT
Live workshop · Exercises · Coaching · Limited-time replay included
Enrollment closes Friday, September 18 at 9:00 pm PT
Build the relationship you actually want — without repeating the pattern that keeps getting in the way.
Identify the pattern blocking true connection, catch it in real time, and learn how to build the relationship
you actually want.
A 4-hour live coaching workshop
Saturday, September 19 · 10AM-2PM PT
Live workshop · Exercises · Coaching
Limited-time replay included
Enrollment closes Friday, September 18 at 9:00 pm PT
AS SEEN IN
Emily has guided thousands of driven men and women; through her content, programs, and live coaching, to finally get the love that matches the rest of their lives.
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"Emily did more for me in 30 minutes than years of therapy ever did."
- Mark W.
Watch Emily explain why your dating pattern is so hard to see while you're in it.
Watch Emily explain why your dating pattern is so hard to see while you're in it.
You've done everything right...
Therapy. Reading. Personal development. Maybe even coaching.
You understand yourself better than most.
And somehow, love keeps producing versions of the same frustration.
Not because you aren’t self-aware.
Because your pattern doesn’t feel like a pattern while you’re in it.
It feels like a perfectly reasonable decision.
“I’m just trusting divine timing. It’ll happen when it’s meant to.”
“I’ll just go all in to see if she’s serious.”
“I’m not controlling. I just like knowing where we stand.”
“I shouldn’t have to ask for this after all these years.”
You do it automatically.
Then your mind gives you a very smart explanation for why this time is different.
And the pattern keeps winning.
You've done everything right...
Therapy. Reading. Personal development. Maybe even coaching.
You understand yourself better than most.
And somehow, love keeps producing versions of the same frustration.
Not because you aren’t self-aware.
Because your pattern doesn’t feel like a pattern while you’re in it.
It feels like a perfectly reasonable decision.
“I’m just trusting divine timing. It’ll happen when it’s meant to.”
“I’ll just go all in to see if she’s serious.”
“I’m not controlling. I just like knowing where we stand.”
“I shouldn’t have to ask for this after all these years.”
You do it automatically.
Then your mind gives you a very smart explanation for why this time is different.
And the pattern keeps winning.
Different person. Different circumstances.
Same pattern. Same outcome.
Until you see it.
Different person. Different circumstances.
Same pattern. Same outcome.
Until you see it.
The Love Lab is one 4-hour live coaching workshop...
Designed to help you identify the dating pattern you’ve been repeating, recognize it while it’s happening, and learn how to interrupt it.
Not more dating rules. Not another list of red flags.
The goal is to help you see what you haven’t been able to see from inside the pattern — so you can finally choose differently.
The Love Lab is one 4-hour live coaching workshop...
Designed to help you identify the dating pattern you’ve been repeating, recognize it while it’s happening, and learn how to interrupt it.
Not more dating rules. Not another list of red flags.
The goal is to help you see what you haven’t been able to see from inside the pattern — so you can finally choose differently.
This was designed for you...
This was designed for you...
You keep meeting different people… but somehow ending up in a familiar emotional place.
You can explain almost every dating decision you make, but you’re starting to wonder if your explanations are keeping you from seeing something.
You want to trust your intuition without confusing intuition with an old pattern reacting to something unfamiliar.
When you really like someone, you stop feeling like yourself and start chasing, withdrawing, or trying to secure the connection.
You’re tired of spending months, or years, in dynamics that never become the partnership you actually want.
You want lasting love without sacrificing the peace, time, energy, standards, or life you’ve worked so hard to build.
You keep meeting different people… but somehow ending up in a familiar emotional place.
You can explain almost every dating decision you make, but you’re starting to wonder if your explanations are keeping you from seeing something.
You want to trust your intuition without confusing intuition with an old pattern reacting to something unfamiliar.
When you really like someone, you stop feeling like yourself and start chasing, withdrawing, or trying to secure the connection.
You’re tired of spending months, or years, in dynamics that never become the partnership you actually want.
You want lasting love without sacrificing the peace, time, energy, standards, or life you’ve worked so hard to build.
What happens inside The Love Lab
One live 4-hour workshop.
Saturday, September 19.
Private Zoom room.
10 AM–2 PM PT / 1–5 PM ET.
Replay included.
Part 1
Identify
See the pattern you’ve been calling “just me.”
• The Pattern Loop: uncover the trigger → story → reaction → outcome you keep repeating
• The Rationalization Audit: see what makes your pattern feel so reasonable
Leave knowing the pattern that’s been holding you back.
Part 2
Catch
Recognize the pattern before it takes over.
• Identify what activates your pattern
• Find your Pause Point: catch it before reaction becomes action
Leave knowing the early signs your pattern is taking over.
Part 3
Interrupt
Know what to do differently when your pattern activates.
• The Pattern Breakpoint™: interrupt the old response before you reinforce it
• Separate what you truly want from what your pattern wants you to do
Leave knowing how to choose differently in the moments that matter.
10 AM–1 PM: Workshop + exercises + short breaks
1–1:30 PM: Live Pattern Coaching + Q&A
1:30–2 PM: Integration + Next Steps
Saturday, September 19 · 10 AM–2 PM PT · Live coaching · Replay included
THIS IS WHAT LIVE PATTERN COACHING LOOKS LIKE
The hardest pattern to see is your own.
You bring the situation you can’t stop analyzing.
The person you can’t figure out.
The moment where something shifted and you still don’t understand why.
We slow the situation down and look underneath the story.
What happened?
What did you make it mean?
What did you feel compelled to do next?
And what did that behavior create?
That’s where the pattern becomes visible.
In live coaching, Emily helps you identify what you couldn’t see from inside the situation — without judgment, games, or generic dating rules.
And sometimes the biggest breakthrough happens while watching someone else get coached.
Because you suddenly realize:
“Wait. I do that too.”
You leave with a clearer view of what’s actually happening, and what to do the next time it happens.
What happens inside
The Love Lab
One live 4-hour workshop.
Saturday, September 19.
Private Zoom room.
10 AM–2 PM PT / 1–5 PM ET.
Limited-time replay included.
PART 1
Identify
See the pattern you’ve been calling “just me.”
• The Pattern Loop: uncover the trigger → story → reaction → outcome you keep repeating
• The Rationalization Audit: see what makes your pattern feel so reasonable
Leave knowing the pattern that’s been holding you back.
PART 2
Catch
Recognize the pattern before it takes over.
• Identify what activates your pattern
• Find your Pause Point: catch it before reaction becomes action
Leave knowing the early signs your pattern is taking over.
PART 3
Interrupt
Know what to do differently when your pattern activates.
• The Pattern Breakpoint™: interrupt the old response before you reinforce it
• Separate what you truly want from what your pattern wants you to do
Leave knowing how to choose differently in the moments that matter.
10 AM–1 PM:
Workshop + exercises + short breaks
1–1:30 PM:
Live Pattern Coaching + Q&A
1:30–2 PM:
Integration + Next Steps
Saturday, September 19 · 10 AM–2 PM PT · Live coaching · Limited-time replay included
THIS IS WHAT LIVE PATTERN COACHING LOOKS LIKE
The hardest pattern to see is your own.
You bring the situation you can’t stop analyzing.
The person you can’t figure out.
The moment where something shifted and you still don’t understand why.
We slow the situation down and look underneath the story.
What happened?
What did you make it mean?
What did you feel compelled to do next?
And what did that behavior create?
That’s where the pattern becomes visible.
In live coaching, Emily helps you identify what you couldn’t see from inside the situation — without judgment, games, or generic dating rules.
And sometimes the biggest breakthrough happens while watching someone else get coached.
Because you suddenly realize:
“Wait. I do that too.”
You leave with a clearer view of what’s actually happening, and what to do the next time it happens.
What you walk away with...
By the end of The Love Lab, you won't just understand your patterns.
You'll be able to see them in real time, which is the only thing that actually changes them.
You'll know what's been recreating the same dynamic, and how to stop it.
You'll stop confusing chemistry with chaos and choose from clarity instead of pattern.
You'll have a framework for partnership that doesn't require you to shrink, perform, or work harder than the relationship deserves.
And you'll leave with a concrete next step, not more information to process alone.
This is for you if...
This is not for you if...
You’re tired of different people leading you to versions of the same outcome.
You’re willing to look honestly at your own role in the dynamic, without blaming or shaming yourself.
You want to trust yourself more by learning the difference between an authentic choice and an automatic pattern.
You’re looking for scripts, games, or rules that will make someone choose you.
You only want confirmation that everyone you’ve dated has been the problem.
You aren’t willing to question a behavior because “that’s just who I am.”
The goal isn’t to become someone else.
It’s to stop letting an old pattern choose for you.
This is for you if...
You’re tired of different people leading you to versions of the same outcome.
You’re willing to look honestly at your own role in the dynamic, without blaming or shaming yourself.
You want to trust yourself more by learning the difference between an authentic choice and an automatic pattern.
This is not for you if...
You’re looking for scripts, games, or rules that will make someone choose you.
You only want confirmation that everyone you’ve dated has been the problem.
You aren’t willing to question a behavior because “that’s just who I am.”
The goal isn’t to become someone else.
It’s to stop letting an old pattern choose for you.
What becomes possible when you stop repeating the old pattern…
“It gave me a different level of love for who I am.”
From performing in dating to being chosen.
“Conflict became a doorway to deeper connection.”
From reactive patterns to secure leadership.
“I worked less, made more, and fell in love.”
From avoidance to a relationship that changed everything.
What becomes possible when you stop repeating the old pattern…
“It gave me a different level of love for who I am.”
From performing in dating to being chosen.
“Conflict became a doorway to deeper connection.”
From reactive patterns to secure leadership.
“I worked less, made more, and fell in love.”
From repeating the old dynamic to a relationship that changed everything.
Meet Emily...
Before meeting her husband, Emily had the thriving career, self-awareness, and years of knowledge around relationships.
And she still kept finding herself in relationships that left her unfulfilled.
It wasn’t because she needed more information.
She could understand her patterns intellectually without recognizing them while she was actually living them.
Everything changed when she stopped only asking:
“Is this the right person?”
and started asking:
“Who do I become when I really want this to work?”
That shift changed how she dated, chose, and ultimately built the partnership she has today.
Now, Emily helps driven, self-aware men and women do the same: see the patterns they can’t see from inside them, and learn how to choose differently.
This isn’t theory.
It’s the work Emily has lived, taught, and personally coached high-performing professionals, public figures, thought leaders, physicians, sales leaders, and parents through.
Meet Emily...
Before meeting her husband, Emily had the thriving career, self-awareness, and years of knowledge around relationships.
And she still kept finding herself in relationships that left her unfulfilled.
It wasn’t because she needed more information.
She could understand her patterns intellectually without recognizing them while she was actually living them.
Everything changed when she stopped only asking:
“Is this the right person?”
And started asking:
“Who do I become when I really want this to work?”
That shift changed how she dated, chose, and ultimately built the partnership she has today.
Now, Emily helps driven, self-aware men and women do the same: see the patterns they can’t see from inside them, and learn how to choose differently.
This isn’t theory.
It’s the work Emily has lived, taught, and personally coached hundreds of driven men and women through.
I didn’t stumble into my relationship.
I rewired the patterns that had me shrinking, performing, or pushing love away, and choose differently.
And I know it’s possible for you, because I did it first.
- Emily
I didn’t stumble into my relationship.
I rewired the patterns that had me shrinking, performing, or pushing love away, and choose differently.
And I know it’s possible for you, because I did it first.
- Emily
Don’t just take my word for it ...
"I've only been working with Emily for three weeks now and I can already say it is well worth the investment. She has this uncanny ability to listen deeply, really understand what I'm saying, then cut through the noise by asking the PERFECT question to put me on my heels wondering why I never thought to ask that of myself before. I've been genuinely astonished at how well and how quickly she seems to zero in on core issues and help me drive toward greater self awareness and greater confidence."
- Dan S.
"He picked me up at the airport with a huge bouquet - then had a present in the car which was a new golf outfit. Then had arranged massages at the ritz & dinner - next day went to his country club to golf & they brought our cart around there was a new set of clubs in it for me - simply beyond my wildest dreams.
He's coming here Friday for the weekend & then we are going to Paris in 2 weeks 😍 Thank you!!!!!"
- Sarah M.
“Emily did an excellent job of helping me understand what exactly women are looking for. I thought I knew what women were looking for until I talked to her and realized I had been viewing things backwards. Even in the short time since I first talked to her I am already having more success in my dating life because I see the dating life in a completely different perspective. This new perspective has allowed me to utilize a new dating strategy and I am already going on more dates with higher quality women.”
- Tyler K.
Join The Love Lab
Break Through
the Pattern
Live coaching. Exercises.
Limited- time replay included.
$127
one-time investment
Saturday, September 19
10 AM–2 PM PT / 1–5 PM ET
Enrollment closes Friday September 18 at 9 PM PT
Limited spots available.
Because registrations include immediate community access, all sales are final.
Enrollment closes Friday September 18 at 9 AM PT
Limited spots available.
Because registrations include immediate community access, all sales are final.
Common Questions
Who is this for?
Love Lab is designed for self-aware men and women who are tired of repeating dating and relationship dynamics they understand after they happen — but struggle to recognize while they’re in them.
You do not need to know what your pattern is before attending. That’s the point of the workshop.
Is this therapy or coaching?
The Love Lab is a coaching and educational experience, not therapy.
We’ll focus on identifying your current dating and relationship patterns, recognizing them in real time, and practicing more intentional responses.
Is this for men and women?
Yes.
Patterns can look different for men and women, but the core process is the same: identify what gets activated, recognize what you automatically do next, and learn how to choose a different response.
Is this for people who are single or already in a relationship?
Both.
Most examples will center around dating, attraction, and early relationship dynamics, but the same patterns often continue once a relationship becomes more serious.
What if I can't attend live?
A replay is included.
You’ll get the most from Love Lab by attending live — especially because of the exercises, live coaching, and Q&A — but you’ll still be able to watch the workshop afterward.
What is the refund policy?
All sales are final.
Your registration reserves access to the live workshop and the replay, so registrations are nonrefundable.
The pattern only keeps running while you can’t see it.
By the end of The Love Lab, you’ll know what you’ve been repeating, how to catch it earlier, and what to do differently when it shows up again.
You don’t need another year of learning the same lesson with a different person.
Saturday, September 19 · 10 AM–2 PM PT · Live coaching ·
Limited-time replay included
The pattern only keeps running while you can’t see it.
By the end of The Love Lab, you’ll know what you’ve been repeating, how to catch it earlier, and what to do differently when it shows up again.
You don’t need another year of learning the same lesson with a different person.
Saturday, September 19 · 10 AM–2 PM PT · Live coaching · Limited-time replay included
